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21 Indian Habits I Lost In San Francisco

On November 12th, 2015 By .   
 

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This originally appeared on BuzzFeed as a Guest Blogpost http://www.buzzfeed.com/SyedShuttari/21-indian-habits-i-lost-in-san-francisco-1xsk2
What happens when you move from disciplined culture of india to laid back culture of san francisco. This articles follows my journey of living 10 years in san francisco and adjusting myself between the extreme cultures of these two places.


1. Losing My Materialistic Tendencies
San Francisco is on the top level of self actualization when it comes to maslows hierarchy of needs pyramid.
You don’t want to buy a house instead take a sabbatical and go on a world tour for gaining different perspectives. Convertible cars are not to attract girls but to get tagged as a narcissist.
Highly paid prestigious jobs are for selfish people who don’t care about family.
It feels good to get rid of materialism and add to your vocabulary consumerism spirituality, yogas, chakras, kundalini’s and other vocabulary you never learnt back home.

2. Part of a Community
India is about everyone working together. Spending holidays together and sharing a life together. SF is everything opposite of that. It is easy to disappear from friends and family and where once India made it impossible to not laugh the night away with family. SF cultivates a sense of independence, which has no place for tight family and friend bonds. If you need someone’s help you don’t call a friend, you call a Toll Free number.

3. Freedom of UnFiltered Expression
Back home, one can get away with anything. Every view has a place, a certain form of respect is given to everyone’s words. You can be rude and someone will share your rudeness. SF only respects sensitivity. You must always be a team player and never ever have an opinion that doesn’t follow the consensus beside your personal preferences. Repressing my feelings became a norm and following what was said became commonplace compared to what i thought.
Because you got to be politically correct. Mantra is simple - only speak if something is positive..if not just keep quiet.

4. Not Respecting All No Matter Who
India does not pride itself on equality. It judges and slots people into sects and classes. SF broke that perception and instilled a level of respect for everyone, no matter they be your waiter or your garbage man. SF taught me how to show gratitude for the simplest of acts.
In societies with meritocracy - respect is reserved only for people who have fulfilled the goals laid out by society and in the extreme form shaming for not fulfilling it. That means Respecting your ABCD [term for indian born in america] friend when he is working as a waiter at a restaurant.

5. Understanding Discipline
Discipline is inculcated usually through - parental pressure so you become result oriented,obey to the standard way of life, criticism from teachers so you shoot for good grades,so you do what’s right and not what feels good and makes you happy. Discipline and happiness are the opposite side of spectrum and SF inspires you to do what makes you happy, whether its dressing up in any costume you want, going on a world tour instead of saving for a house or quit your job to start a startup because it makes you happy.

6. Everything isn’t What it Seems
Indians are used to speaking our minds. If they are having a tough day at work, they will tell you. San Franciscans on the other hand devise a ” always happy” facade to hide their true feelings and always present a strong front. Same goes for using words of endearment. You might be called someone’s brother one minute but get made fun of by the same “brother” the next minute.
Yo Bro, It was nice to meet you, let’s keep in touch are 3 of the 300 words you come across every day which needs to be reinterpreted from their literal meanings.

7. Where is the Culture?
The phrase ” being cultured” does not mean anything in SF. You don’t need to know about anything happening in the world and still will be able to fit in. In India, where people are made fun of on their lack of knowledge, mannerisms and even eating habits. This was a huge shock, even more drastic than expected. San Francisco is laid back, almost too laid back.
America was never ruled by any king or emperor and hence there is no set of standard definitions on best way of life, beliefs and values. Everything has options infact a lot of them - Choose your own way of how a dish is made at restaurant, how you want to dress, when you want to get married - no one is reminding you of standard definitions chosen by society in general as a best practice. Yes that means no shaming if you choose to put rice in naan and dip it in paani puri sauce - there is no one way or right way to do anything. Not having a cultural gives america the freedom of life that attracts everyone here.

8. Being direct with what you want
Back home, you say what is on your mind. If you don’t want to go to a party, you just say no and it’s not perceived as rude or offensive and vice versa. In SF, you can’t be upfront. You can’t just say no or i don’t like it aEverything has to be sugar coated.
You have to pay a “Wanting” it tax when you directly show people what you want. Asking a girl out for date needs to be reworded as hangin out, asking your friend needs to be -Maybe we can go see - if you are not busy/no pressure/just checking.

9. British/pop/love songs
Why is it so wrong to still listen to 90’s music ? No one will appreciate the fact that you still remember the names of all the Backstreet Boys and every lyrics to Robbie Williams. It’s all about Nicki Manaj and God Forbid you mention classics in front of San Franciscans. Its called cheesy - be prepared to be laughed at upon mentioning your love for 80/90’s pop songs you grow up with.

10. Keeping Up With the Joneses
In India you get rated and compared to your car, house and new gadgets. Getting a BMW meant you were rich but not in San Fran, here everyone can get anything. You want the latest Iphone, get it on monthly installments, you want a new house, get a bigger mortgage. I lost my awe and charm for everyone and see everything equally.
Lifestyle of people is so balanced that almost everyone you know has a car, house, smart phone, playstation - so you never need to inquire how much they earn, what things they have bought and from where, how much it cost, being curious of their possessions, business and beautiful girlfriend - You have equal chance of getting everything you want, there is so much abundance of everything..you just need to pay the price of hard work and get it. Instead of wishing your neighbour loses his!

11. My Accent
Your indian accent works against you if you seriously want to make it to the top level. americans describe indian accent as nasal, weak, monotone, questioning, high pitched and rude. if you have come to america.. you have to quickly shape up or ship out [ with a hand gesture of ship going back] -as told by my boss at work.

12. Redtapism
Everything is so close and accessible here. Tasks such as opening my own business, which once was thought as nearly impossible could be accomplished in a matter of hours. You can’t make excuses, you can’t blame the government for not trying. You can do anything and everything in SF. Not only is there community support but no hidden laws to create hurdles.
I lost my excuse/habit of thinking as a consumer and thinking and becoming a creator/producer -Iinstead of using things produced by others.

13. Know it All
Indians don’t take defeat very well. We apply that same principal everywhere in our lives. Don’t know the directions to a place, well still a good guess won’t hurt anyone. This is our ideology in everything. San Franciscans on the other hand, will tell you straight up, when they have no clue whats going on. Even as far as a medical practitioner admitting one’s fault or lack of knowledge. Practicing this habit everyday was a joy in itself. It’s common to hear i don’t know from doctors, teachers, managers, car mechanics and what not..it’s ok to not know things and say that instead of saying something to appear knowledgeable.

14. Not using law and order
Everyone here loves to throw around the dreaded “sue” word and it’s not uncommon to see at least two people on a daily basis bickering about suing each other. This kind of attitude is unknown back in India. Neither does anyone even have the time to sue one another nor is it just “that easy”. You can sue your someone if he points a bug spray at you for $50,000, you can sue mcdonald’s if they are cleaning their store and don’t put the “Caution Wet floor” sign and you slip on their floor, you can sue government if road has potholes and you fall into it, you can even sue a barber if he accidentally cuts your skin with the blade..that’s why you hardly find barbers here..it’s a suing culture.

15. Wearing My Heart on My Sleeve
Think of dating back in India and just do the exact opposite here in SF. Where once exposing your love and feelings for a gorgeous girl was appreciated and applauded, it now has become a sure way to make that same girl run faster than you can think. You have to pay the “wanting tax”, a tax levied on individuals when they directly speak of wanting something. The more you speak in riddles the better. Else your high interest level come across directly..it’s part of paying ” wantin it” tax.

16. Subtleties
Indians think of shyness as a form of respect. In India you should conduct yourself in a reserved manner, when in social gatherings however in SF all you need to do to be the life of the party is to be loud and obnoxious. This is something i value, rather than being rated on your bookish knowledge you get evaluated by your personality. Modesty is not a virtue in the country of extremes, everything has to be big,awesome, amazing and if you don’t portray then you miss out. Talk a lot with lot of excitement even while describing how you clipped your toenails that day. if you don’t describe it excitingly then you are a bore and need to get a life. Goals is not to be normal but do something extraordinary when it comes to social situations

17. Hipsters
Hipsters in India are known to be jobless, unrealistic slobs who will ruin your children and all the values you carefully spent instilling into them. This however is not the truth, being hipster is a choice of lifestyle. They choose to be different. Some might even choose the correct path but not the same path as everyone. When you get to know them you will realize they thrive on being different - they get a high from eating,wearing, working, owning - what you can’t imagine. It’s necessary here in US where the mainstream crowd looks so similar- drinking same beer, going out to the same baseball/basketball games, buying clothes from same brands and listening to same crowd. What does a poor mortal got to do when he is creative and want to show he is different..enter the hipster movement.. here is the rule of the club if you really want to be a hipster…don’t call yourself a hipster!

18. Take Stereotypes with A Pinch of Salt
As Indians we are already part of a dynamic stereotype and being the minority in a place like SF opened my eyes to other cultures and their stereotypes. It shows that not everything they show on T.V is accurate but sometimes even far from the truth. SF is a melting pot and learning about people from all different backgrounds taught me acceptance.
Americans have the same stereotypes about india i.e caste system, slums, elephants, music that plays with snake in the background and i will leave rest for your imaginations. No matter how passionately you try to break stereotypes you have to accept that people will learn things only when they travel that’s just a fact of life.

19. Silicon valley dreams
Silicon valley is made up of IC’s not integrated circuits but indians and Chinese - i’m talking about the technology workers. It will be harder to integrate in american culture, learn lifestyle and make cool american friends if you get a job as an engineer. You gotta be at the top or bottom to experience american lifestyle - being a programmer just doesn’t expose you that much.
It has been noted that you can only experience true American culture only by either being in the top or bottom and that hits the nail right on the head. Being a programmer, there isn’t much to learn or even experience except seeing other fellow immigrants in the middle.

20. Fear of The Unknown AKA Xenophobia
San Francisco has neighborhoods giving a reflection of different countries and sub culture in one city: Castro is for LGBT people, mission for hipsters, marina: frat bros, soma: for techies, north beach for europeans, berkley: for hedonists Everyone is right in their own views on how to live life and what to do: Be curious about their lifestyle and maybe you will be enlightened,get self actualized and find Nirvana.

21. Full service house parties
Individualism is cultivated in SF. You always have to take care of yourself. Go to a friend’s house and yes, you might be asked to help with the dishes afterwards, yes you don’t have to pay for everyone’s bill at a restaurant, you can pay your share of $11.21 for the chicken tikka and naan you had.
Such acts would be considered rude in India but are commonplace in SF. If even asked for any favors, a blunt ” no royal treatment for you” would be surely followed with.

 

imagessf

 
This originally appeared on BuzzFeed as a Guest Blogpost http://www.buzzfeed.com/SyedShuttari/21-indian-habits-i-lost-in-san-francisco-1xsk2
What happens when you move from disciplined culture of india to laid back culture of san francisco. This articles follows my journey of living 10 years in san francisco and adjusting myself between the extreme cultures of these two places.

1. Losing My Materialistic Tendencies
San Francisco is on the top level of self actualization when it comes to maslows hierarchy of needs pyramid.
You don’t want to buy a house instead take a sabbatical and go on a world tour for gaining different perspectives. Convertible cars are not to attract girls but to get tagged as a narcissist.
Highly paid prestigious jobs are for selfish people who don’t care about family.
It feels good to get rid of materialism and add to your vocabulary consumerism spirituality, yogas, chakras, kundalini’s and other vocabulary you never learnt back home.

2. Part of a Community
India is about everyone working together. Spending holidays together and sharing a life together. SF is everything opposite of that. It is easy to disappear from friends and family and where once India made it impossible to not laugh the night away with family. SF cultivates a sense of independence, which has no place for tight family and friend bonds. If you need someone’s help you don’t call a friend, you call a Toll Free number.

3. Freedom of UnFiltered Expression
Back home, one can get away with anything. Every view has a place, a certain form of respect is given to everyone’s words. You can be rude and someone will share your rudeness. SF only respects sensitivity. You must always be a team player and never ever have an opinion that doesn’t follow the consensus beside your personal preferences. Repressing my feelings became a norm and following what was said became commonplace compared to what i thought.
Because you got to be politically correct. Mantra is simple – only speak if something is positive..if not just keep quiet.

4. Not Respecting All No Matter Who
India does not pride itself on equality. It judges and slots people into sects and classes. SF broke that perception and instilled a level of respect for everyone, no matter they be your waiter or your garbage man. SF taught me how to show gratitude for the simplest of acts.
In societies with meritocracy – respect is reserved only for people who have fulfilled the goals laid out by society and in the extreme form shaming for not fulfilling it. That means Respecting your ABCD [term for indian born in america] friend when he is working as a waiter at a restaurant.

5. Understanding Discipline
Discipline is inculcated usually through – parental pressure so you become result oriented,obey to the standard way of life, criticism from teachers so you shoot for good grades,so you do what’s right and not what feels good and makes you happy. Discipline and happiness are the opposite side of spectrum and SF inspires you to do what makes you happy, whether its dressing up in any costume you want, going on a world tour instead of saving for a house or quit your job to start a startup because it makes you happy.

6. Everything isn’t What it Seems
Indians are used to speaking our minds. If they are having a tough day at work, they will tell you. San Franciscans on the other hand devise a ” always happy” facade to hide their true feelings and always present a strong front. Same goes for using words of endearment. You might be called someone’s brother one minute but get made fun of by the same “brother” the next minute.
Yo Bro, It was nice to meet you, let’s keep in touch are 3 of the 300 words you come across every day which needs to be reinterpreted from their literal meanings.

7. Where is the Culture?
The phrase ” being cultured” does not mean anything in SF. You don’t need to know about anything happening in the world and still will be able to fit in. In India, where people are made fun of on their lack of knowledge, mannerisms and even eating habits. This was a huge shock, even more drastic than expected. San Francisco is laid back, almost too laid back.
America was never ruled by any king or emperor and hence there is no set of standard definitions on best way of life, beliefs and values. Everything has options infact a lot of them – Choose your own way of how a dish is made at restaurant, how you want to dress, when you want to get married – no one is reminding you of standard definitions chosen by society in general as a best practice. Yes that means no shaming if you choose to put rice in naan and dip it in paani puri sauce – there is no one way or right way to do anything. Not having a cultural gives america the freedom of life that attracts everyone here.

8. Being direct with what you want
Back home, you say what is on your mind. If you don’t want to go to a party, you just say no and it’s not perceived as rude or offensive and vice versa. In SF, you can’t be upfront. You can’t just say no or i don’t like it aEverything has to be sugar coated.
You have to pay a “Wanting” it tax when you directly show people what you want. Asking a girl out for date needs to be reworded as hangin out, asking your friend needs to be -Maybe we can go see – if you are not busy/no pressure/just checking.

9. British/pop/love songs
Why is it so wrong to still listen to 90’s music ? No one will appreciate the fact that you still remember the names of all the Backstreet Boys and every lyrics to Robbie Williams. It’s all about Nicki Manaj and God Forbid you mention classics in front of San Franciscans. Its called cheesy – be prepared to be laughed at upon mentioning your love for 80/90’s pop songs you grow up with.

10. Keeping Up With the Joneses
In India you get rated and compared to your car, house and new gadgets. Getting a BMW meant you were rich but not in San Fran, here everyone can get anything. You want the latest Iphone, get it on monthly installments, you want a new house, get a bigger mortgage. I lost my awe and charm for everyone and see everything equally.
Lifestyle of people is so balanced that almost everyone you know has a car, house, smart phone, playstation – so you never need to inquire how much they earn, what things they have bought and from where, how much it cost, being curious of their possessions, business and beautiful girlfriend – You have equal chance of getting everything you want, there is so much abundance of everything..you just need to pay the price of hard work and get it. Instead of wishing your neighbour loses his!

11. My Accent
Your indian accent works against you if you seriously want to make it to the top level. americans describe indian accent as nasal, weak, monotone, questioning, high pitched and rude. if you have come to america.. you have to quickly shape up or ship out [ with a hand gesture of ship going back] -as told by my boss at work.

12. Redtapism
Everything is so close and accessible here. Tasks such as opening my own business, which once was thought as nearly impossible could be accomplished in a matter of hours. You can’t make excuses, you can’t blame the government for not trying. You can do anything and everything in SF. Not only is there community support but no hidden laws to create hurdles.
I lost my excuse/habit of thinking as a consumer and thinking and becoming a creator/producer -Iinstead of using things produced by others.

13. Know it All
Indians don’t take defeat very well. We apply that same principal everywhere in our lives. Don’t know the directions to a place, well still a good guess won’t hurt anyone. This is our ideology in everything. San Franciscans on the other hand, will tell you straight up, when they have no clue whats going on. Even as far as a medical practitioner admitting one’s fault or lack of knowledge. Practicing this habit everyday was a joy in itself. It’s common to hear i don’t know from doctors, teachers, managers, car mechanics and what not..it’s ok to not know things and say that instead of saying something to appear knowledgeable.

14. Not using law and order
Everyone here loves to throw around the dreaded “sue” word and it’s not uncommon to see at least two people on a daily basis bickering about suing each other. This kind of attitude is unknown back in India. Neither does anyone even have the time to sue one another nor is it just “that easy”. You can sue your someone if he points a bug spray at you for $50,000, you can sue mcdonald’s if they are cleaning their store and don’t put the “Caution Wet floor” sign and you slip on their floor, you can sue government if road has potholes and you fall into it, you can even sue a barber if he accidentally cuts your skin with the blade..that’s why you hardly find barbers here..it’s a suing culture.

15. Wearing My Heart on My Sleeve
Think of dating back in India and just do the exact opposite here in SF. Where once exposing your love and feelings for a gorgeous girl was appreciated and applauded, it now has become a sure way to make that same girl run faster than you can think. You have to pay the “wanting tax”, a tax levied on individuals when they directly speak of wanting something. The more you speak in riddles the better. Else your high interest level come across directly..it’s part of paying ” wantin it” tax.

16. Subtleties
Indians think of shyness as a form of respect. In India you should conduct yourself in a reserved manner, when in social gatherings however in SF all you need to do to be the life of the party is to be loud and obnoxious. This is something i value, rather than being rated on your bookish knowledge you get evaluated by your personality. Modesty is not a virtue in the country of extremes, everything has to be big,awesome, amazing and if you don’t portray then you miss out. Talk a lot with lot of excitement even while describing how you clipped your toenails that day. if you don’t describe it excitingly then you are a bore and need to get a life. Goals is not to be normal but do something extraordinary when it comes to social situations

17. Hipsters
Hipsters in India are known to be jobless, unrealistic slobs who will ruin your children and all the values you carefully spent instilling into them. This however is not the truth, being hipster is a choice of lifestyle. They choose to be different. Some might even choose the correct path but not the same path as everyone. When you get to know them you will realize they thrive on being different – they get a high from eating,wearing, working, owning – what you can’t imagine. It’s necessary here in US where the mainstream crowd looks so similar- drinking same beer, going out to the same baseball/basketball games, buying clothes from same brands and listening to same crowd. What does a poor mortal got to do when he is creative and want to show he is different..enter the hipster movement.. here is the rule of the club if you really want to be a hipster…don’t call yourself a hipster!

18. Take Stereotypes with A Pinch of Salt
As Indians we are already part of a dynamic stereotype and being the minority in a place like SF opened my eyes to other cultures and their stereotypes. It shows that not everything they show on T.V is accurate but sometimes even far from the truth. SF is a melting pot and learning about people from all different backgrounds taught me acceptance.
Americans have the same stereotypes about india i.e caste system, slums, elephants, music that plays with snake in the background and i will leave rest for your imaginations. No matter how passionately you try to break stereotypes you have to accept that people will learn things only when they travel that’s just a fact of life.

19. Silicon valley dreams
Silicon valley is made up of IC’s not integrated circuits but indians and Chinese – i’m talking about the technology workers. It will be harder to integrate in american culture, learn lifestyle and make cool american friends if you get a job as an engineer. You gotta be at the top or bottom to experience american lifestyle – being a programmer just doesn’t expose you that much.
It has been noted that you can only experience true American culture only by either being in the top or bottom and that hits the nail right on the head. Being a programmer, there isn’t much to learn or even experience except seeing other fellow immigrants in the middle.

20. Fear of The Unknown AKA Xenophobia
San Francisco has neighborhoods giving a reflection of different countries and sub culture in one city: Castro is for LGBT people, mission for hipsters, marina: frat bros, soma: for techies, north beach for europeans, berkley: for hedonists Everyone is right in their own views on how to live life and what to do: Be curious about their lifestyle and maybe you will be enlightened,get self actualized and find Nirvana.

21. Full service house parties
Individualism is cultivated in SF. You always have to take care of yourself. Go to a friend’s house and yes, you might be asked to help with the dishes afterwards, yes you don’t have to pay for everyone’s bill at a restaurant, you can pay your share of $11.21 for the chicken tikka and naan you had.
Such acts would be considered rude in India but are commonplace in SF. If even asked for any favors, a blunt ” no royal treatment for you” would be surely followed with.

My Impossilbe List

On October 2nd, 2014 By .   
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Impossible list is an always changing and evolving list that requires action today.
Unlike bucket list which is a list of things you would like to do someday.
In my last blogpost i talked about how most of us exist in what I call tactical hell. Going from bucket list thinking to Impossible list thinking is a good place to start becoming more strategic.
Here is my list which i will be constantly editing based on the events i experience or people i get inspired from.

Live like a local in :
Medellin, Colombia [South America] Learnt Physical Fitness
Barcelona, Spain [Europe] Learnt Artistic Culture
San Francisco, USA [North America] Learnt Startup Culture
Bangalore, India [Asia] Learnt Asian Discipline

Sydney, Australia [Australia]
Nairobi Kenya [Africa]
Antartica
Visit 10 countries. Visit 50 Countries. Visit 100 Countries. Visit All the Counutries

Living three months or longer ensure you start seeing things from locals point of view and it rubs off on you to see things differently and hence become a bit like them.

Fitness :
Run a 5k
Run a 10k

Run a Half Marathon
50 Consecutive Pushups
100 Consecutive pushups
Do 50 Situps
Do 100 Situps
Get a Six-pack Ab
Learn to shop and cook for slow-carb diet
Take cold showers 30 days in a row


I was pretty late to get into fitness side of things, however as you see it has so many hidden benefits. Being fit directly affects all of your goals. When you are in creative field and get burnout and run out of ideas - this is where removing negative energy from the body and inducing fresh oxygen brings back your mojo.

Express Creativity:

Start a Business [www.LetsLunch.Com]
Start an Ethnic Restaurant [interiors, Service, Food]
Write and Direct a Movie
Toastmasters international speech competition https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHp4dTgMzXw
Write a blog http://www.SyedShuttari.com
Give a speech at University of 500 or more students http://www.marketingfacts.nl/berichten/marketeers-zijn-hoeren


They say half of your success is due to your creative skills and other half is how you express and show it to the world. Generally artists tend to be poor at marketing themselves. There expressing your creativity effectively ensures you make good use of it rather than keep it to yourself!

Build Empathy:
Artists
Hipsters
Feminisits
Badboys
Conservatives
Liberals
Capitalists
Socialists

Seeing things from other peoples point of view is so powerful. You should be able to defend anyones by exactly knowing why they are the way they are. This does’nt mean you agree with them but can feel and see what they feel and see. This leads to understand human behviors needs and motivations, predicting how they will react in a certain situation and use effective communication skills. Only by hanging out and seeing day to day life style that you will truly understand people who are different than you.

What one thing you would like to put in your impossibe list?

After you’ve done one impossible thing, what else is impossible?

photo (26)

Impossible list is an always changing and evolving list that requires action today.
Unlike bucket list which is a list of things you would like to do someday.
In my last blogpost i talked about how most of us exist in what I call tactical hell. Going from bucket list thinking to Impossible list thinking is a good place to start becoming more strategic.
Here is my list which i will be constantly editing based on the events i experience or people i get inspired from.

Live like a local in :
Medellin, Colombia [South America] Learnt Physical Fitness
Barcelona, Spain [Europe] Learnt Artistic Culture
San Francisco, USA [North America] Learnt Startup Culture
Bangalore, India [Asia] Learnt Asian Discipline

Sydney, Australia [Australia]
Nairobi Kenya [Africa]
Antartica
Visit 10 countries. Visit 50 Countries. Visit 100 Countries. Visit All the Counutries

Living three months or longer ensure you start seeing things from locals point of view and it rubs off on you to see things differently and hence become a bit like them.

Fitness :
Run a 5k
Run a 10k

Run a Half Marathon
50 Consecutive Pushups
100 Consecutive pushups
Do 50 Situps
Do 100 Situps
Get a Six-pack Ab
Learn to shop and cook for slow-carb diet
Take cold showers 30 days in a row

I was pretty late to get into fitness side of things, however as you see it has so many hidden benefits. Being fit directly affects all of your goals. When you are in creative field and get burnout and run out of ideas – this is where removing negative energy from the body and inducing fresh oxygen brings back your mojo.

Express Creativity:

Start a Business [www.LetsLunch.Com]
Start an Ethnic Restaurant [interiors, Service, Food]
Write and Direct a Movie
Toastmasters international speech competition https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHp4dTgMzXw
Write a blog http://www.SyedShuttari.com
Give a speech at University of 500 or more students http://www.marketingfacts.nl/berichten/marketeers-zijn-hoeren

They say half of your success is due to your creative skills and other half is how you express and show it to the world. Generally artists tend to be poor at marketing themselves. There expressing your creativity effectively ensures you make good use of it rather than keep it to yourself!

Build Empathy:
Artists
Hipsters
Feminisits
Badboys
Conservatives
Liberals
Capitalists
Socialists

Seeing things from other peoples point of view is so powerful. You should be able to defend anyones by exactly knowing why they are the way they are. This does’nt mean you agree with them but can feel and see what they feel and see. This leads to understand human behviors needs and motivations, predicting how they will react in a certain situation and use effective communication skills. Only by hanging out and seeing day to day life style that you will truly understand people who are different than you.

What one thing you would like to put in your impossibe list?

After you’ve done one impossible thing, what else is impossible?

LetsLunch is Hiring – And we want you to travel the world with us

On May 7th, 2014 By .   
 

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After a crazy couple of months of rapid growth, LetsLunch is ready to hire again. If you’re tired of the startup grind and want to try something new – then we are the place for you. No longer will you be confined to your office, or even your desk. Bring your laptop and your sense of adventure as we scale and grow on a global scale.

Who we are:
We are rapidly growing, venture-backed company that has been around for over two years. Our product touches thousands of people on a daily basis and is revolutionizing the way people interact. LetsLunch is bringing people offline - IRL in real life for building meaningful connections over day to day activities like lunch/coffee.

The Plan..aka..the part where you join us in Latin America:

Our team is an adventurous lot and we enjoy taking full advantage of the global tech ecosystems around us. Essentially what that means is that though we’ve launched our product in Europe, the US, and Asia, we are not tied to any one place. We have been lucky enough to combine our passion for building companies with our passion for travel and are intending to spend the next couple of months living in Colombia.

Right now we need two talented individuals to join us in Medellin, Colombia for the next 2-3 months as we revamp the website and build a mobile app. If you join us, LetsLunch will cover your airplane tickets, room and board as well as a monthly stipend that can be used for anything…though I highly recommend trying a salsa class or two. The team will live in a luxury three-bedroom furnished penthouse apartment in the Poblado neighborhood of Medellin -the best and cosmopolitan part of the city. Medellin was winner of the 2013 Citi-WSJ ‘Innovative City of the Year’ award, and in the past few months hosted both Emtech and the World Urban Forum. New York Times readers likewise identified Colombia in 2012 as their second favorite tourist destination in the world.

http://discovercolombia.com/new-york-times-readers-rate-colombia-2-favorite-destination/

View-of-Poblado-w

The cost of living in Medellin is significantly lower than the US, while the amenities are comparable. The overall quality of life is excellent. Poblado, the area in which we’ll be living, is safe, clean, well-developed, and full of restaurants and nightclubs. We will will be based in the Atomhouse – a 7,000 square foot coworking space and community center for entrepreneurs.

What we are looking for:

To grow our team and product to the next level, we are looking to bring on two additional team members to join us.

PHP Engineer: We test a large amount of features and experiment with various A/B tests. The engineer will use APIs to connect with other leading social media sites, manage the speed of the site and provide support for backend links for mobile JSON. The Engineer needs to be creative but also adept with processing large amounts of information in accurate and meaningful ways. What I want is a nerd. Someone who loves to code, to learn, to understand complex and difficult ideas. And then they must have the ability to condense and express those complex ideas.

IOS Developer: The mobile app needs to attract users and seamlessly translate our vision into an experience that combines a UX experience with beautifully crafted location awareness. I’m very flexible with this position. I don’t have a specific type of IOS developer in mind. I’m interested in anybody that I feel can add a lot of power and value to taking letslunch.com mobile. At the end of the day, since the iOS developer will be helping to build the product from scratch, I want to find someone who is a fan of Let’s Lunch and intrinsically understands our product and market.

Candidate Qualifications:

Interested in one of the jobs? Then read below for what we consider to be essentials for anyone wanting to join our team:

1. You must be a fan of LetsLunch.com and are excited about our industry, users and vision. You must have familiarity with our product – if not, be sure to read thisthis, and this

The business has generated growth year after year and we want to make sure you not only understand our business models, but have ideas and vision for where the industry is heading.

2. You are familiar with internet technologies and various internet news platforms. This is absolutely non-negotiable. That means you must be well read in the following blogs: Hackernews, techcrunch, mashable and reddit.

3. You must be a fluent English-speaker

How to Apply

1:You may only apply for one position, so please choose the position that best suits your skills.

2: Send all applications to the email address: jobs (AT) LetsLunch.com

3: The subject line should read: “APPLICATION: [Your Name] – [Position You’re Applying For]”

Send a brief cover letter with the following: 1) Why you want this position and 2) What is the stupidest thing you’ve ever done and why. (Maximum 500 words)

4: Attach your resume/CV.

5: Include your portfolio./github link. You will be judged almost entirely based on your portfolio.

The Application Process

As applications are received, we will carefully review and be in touch with the most promising candidates.

This position is available to be filled as soon as possible.

 

hiring

After a crazy couple of months of rapid growth, LetsLunch is ready to hire again. If you’re tired of the startup grind and want to try something new – then we are the place for you. No longer will you be confined to your office, or even your desk. Bring your laptop and your sense of adventure as we scale and grow on a global scale.

Who we are:
We are rapidly growing, venture-backed company that has been around for over two years. Our product touches thousands of people on a daily basis and is revolutionizing the way people interact. LetsLunch is bringing people offline - IRL in real life for building meaningful connections over day to day activities like lunch/coffee.

The Plan..aka..the part where you join us in Latin America:

Our team is an adventurous lot and we enjoy taking full advantage of the global tech ecosystems around us. Essentially what that means is that though we’ve launched our product in Europe, the US, and Asia, we are not tied to any one place. We have been lucky enough to combine our passion for building companies with our passion for travel and are intending to spend the next couple of months living in Colombia.

Right now we need two talented individuals to join us in Medellin, Colombia for the next 2-3 months as we revamp the website and build a mobile app. If you join us, LetsLunch will cover your airplane tickets, room and board as well as a monthly stipend that can be used for anything…though I highly recommend trying a salsa class or two. The team will live in a luxury three-bedroom furnished penthouse apartment in the Poblado neighborhood of Medellin -the best and cosmopolitan part of the city. Medellin was winner of the 2013 Citi-WSJ ‘Innovative City of the Year’ award, and in the past few months hosted both Emtech and the World Urban Forum. New York Times readers likewise identified Colombia in 2012 as their second favorite tourist destination in the world.

http://discovercolombia.com/new-york-times-readers-rate-colombia-2-favorite-destination/

View-of-Poblado-w

The cost of living in Medellin is significantly lower than the US, while the amenities are comparable. The overall quality of life is excellent. Poblado, the area in which we’ll be living, is safe, clean, well-developed, and full of restaurants and nightclubs. We will will be based in the Atomhouse – a 7,000 square foot coworking space and community center for entrepreneurs.

What we are looking for:

To grow our team and product to the next level, we are looking to bring on two additional team members to join us.

PHP Engineer: We test a large amount of features and experiment with various A/B tests. The engineer will use APIs to connect with other leading social media sites, manage the speed of the site and provide support for backend links for mobile JSON. The Engineer needs to be creative but also adept with processing large amounts of information in accurate and meaningful ways. What I want is a nerd. Someone who loves to code, to learn, to understand complex and difficult ideas. And then they must have the ability to condense and express those complex ideas.

IOS Developer: The mobile app needs to attract users and seamlessly translate our vision into an experience that combines a UX experience with beautifully crafted location awareness. I’m very flexible with this position. I don’t have a specific type of IOS developer in mind. I’m interested in anybody that I feel can add a lot of power and value to taking letslunch.com mobile. At the end of the day, since the iOS developer will be helping to build the product from scratch, I want to find someone who is a fan of Let’s Lunch and intrinsically understands our product and market.

Candidate Qualifications:

Interested in one of the jobs? Then read below for what we consider to be essentials for anyone wanting to join our team:

1. You must be a fan of LetsLunch.com and are excited about our industry, users and vision. You must have familiarity with our product – if not, be sure to read thisthis, and this

The business has generated growth year after year and we want to make sure you not only understand our business models, but have ideas and vision for where the industry is heading.

2. You are familiar with internet technologies and various internet news platforms. This is absolutely non-negotiable. That means you must be well read in the following blogs: Hackernews, techcrunch, mashable and reddit.

3. You must be a fluent English-speaker

How to Apply

1:You may only apply for one position, so please choose the position that best suits your skills.

2: Send all applications to the email address: jobs (AT) LetsLunch.com

3: The subject line should read: “APPLICATION: [Your Name] – [Position You’re Applying For]”

Send a brief cover letter with the following: 1) Why you want this position and 2) What is the stupidest thing you’ve ever done and why. (Maximum 500 words)

4: Attach your resume/CV.

5: Include your portfolio./github link. You will be judged almost entirely based on your portfolio.

The Application Process

As applications are received, we will carefully review and be in touch with the most promising candidates.

This position is available to be filled as soon as possible.

What really happens when you are building a startup

On May 1st, 2014 By .   

Emerging monarch


Building a startup is a thought process about changing your thought process. Here are the steps  to help you start to think differently:


1: Shifting from TACTICAL hell (how) =>  to STRATEGIC heaven (why/what-if)
2:  Building a startup to impress people (Phase 1) => Doing it out of habit(Phase 2) => Understanding human motivations and needs (Phase 3)
3:  Fusing your fantasies (+) with rational  processes, withstanding the trial-by-fire.
4:  Finding your true motivations  => demonstrating them in your   Identity => Actions => Living => Communication
5:  Fearing death => Fearing a life you live or not live up until the death.
6:  Changing your measurements from Square footage, horsepower, additional zeroes in the bank  account , Quantity/version of toys, no of people in your fan club  => TO Freedom of decision-making,  utilizing time durably, access to variety of experiences.
7: Experiencing the two ends of strata - passion and responsibility => finding a middle ground.

What Phase are you in?

Emerging monarch

Building a startup is a thought process about changing your thought process. Here are the steps  to help you start to think differently:

1: Shifting from TACTICAL hell (how) =>  to STRATEGIC heaven (why/what-if)
2:  Building a startup to impress people (Phase 1) => Doing it out of habit(Phase 2) => Understanding human motivations and needs (Phase 3)
3:  Fusing your fantasies (+) with rational  processes, withstanding the trial-by-fire.
4:  Finding your true motivations  => demonstrating them in your   Identity => Actions => Living => Communication
5:  Fearing death => Fearing a life you live or not live up until the death.
6:  Changing your measurements from Square footage, horsepower, additional zeroes in the bank  account , Quantity/version of toys, no of people in your fan club  => TO Freedom of decision-making,  utilizing time durably, access to variety of experiences.
7: Experiencing the two ends of strata – passion and responsibility => finding a middle ground.

What Phase are you in?

Heaven and Hell in startups

On August 9th, 2013 By .   
In my humble opinion (conducting 600+ interviews)

Startups are heaven when you have:
European Designer, Indian Engineer, Los Angeles Marketer, San Francisco User Experience (UX), Silicon Valley Investor, New York Biz Dev, Israeli Operations and a Founder who has lived and travelled to all the above places!

Startups are hell when you have:
European Marketer, Indian Designer, New York Investor, Los Angeles Engineer, San Francisco Operations, Israeli UX and Founder without a passport.

Its just the nature!

In my humble opinion (conducting 600+ interviews)

Startups are heaven when you have:
European Designer, Indian Engineer, Los Angeles Marketer, San Francisco User Experience (UX), Silicon Valley Investor, New York Biz Dev, Israeli Operations and a Founder who has lived and travelled to all the above places!

Startups are hell when you have:
European Marketer, Indian Designer, New York Investor, Los Angeles Engineer, San Francisco Operations, Israeli UX and Founder without a passport.

Its just the nature!

Demystifying Risks and its Definitions

On July 16th, 2013 By .   

poker


Risk means different things to different people. I cringe every time someone equates risk to gambling foolishly. Something on the lines of - I'd like to launch a startup, that means i have to sacrifice my X (Say 2) yrs salary and time. If this works out i will end up with a multi-million dollars startup. Downside is of losing two years salary if it doesn't work our. The upside [Reward] is 1000 times return and risk [Downside] is losing two years salary.



Upside/Downside; Upside = Reward - Downside = Risk.




There is something utterly wrong with this theory. The real risk here is not the downside.


You missing out on the multi-million dollar opportunity is a way bigger risk than losing two years salary [Downside].


Still there are a lot of elements missing out in both of the definitions above.


Personally speaking, i have been called a Risk taker all my life. Especially after starting my startup LetsLunch.com . Slowly i started understanding the elements of risk taking.


Why some people can go on taking risks after risks, while others have a hard time even once doing something out of their comfort zone. In my previous post i talked about how habits are formed and retained as a group and not as isolated goals.



I have found that risk by itself doesn't exist!!!



What we do is simply apply one of the fundamental positive qualities in the right given context.


That comes across as risk. For example: Many opportunities are lost because of indecision.


Making a decision means also being ready to take the blame. We'd rather take advice, wait for the complete proof and safety, form a consensus, watch for proof from other people and then once it feels responsibility will not be put on you for your decision, then we make the decision.

Someone who is not afraid of being wrong - We call him a risk taking person.



In this Context, simply being able to make decisions fast enough, we appear to be a risk taker.


Risk = Decision making.


Here is a list of all the attributes- when used in the right context, comes across as Risk.

1: Saying no: Every act of saying no has elements of risk involved in it. Your competitors are doing -this, that and those - you are expected to do it for your friends, employees, investors, peers etc. If you don't plan to do it then you risk missing out the opportunity, appearing foolish/lazy. Ironically not following suit with your competitor might be the best strategy in some scenarios. The risk here is offending who you work with, Risk taking here simply becomes saying no.

2: Burning desire: You all know the story of Socrates and how a young man approached him wanting to be like him. Then how he ducked the head of the man under the water, leaving him gasping for air. Telling How badly he wanted oxygen while ducked in the water equally bad he should desire knowledge, if he wanted to be like him.


This is the opposite of saying no, Here you want things pretty bad and pursuit of it appears risk to everyone. I always wanted to backpack Europe. However, it used to appear so risky to me. How will i figure out where i will stay, i don't know anyone there, what places i will see, what if i get lost on the freeway somewhere. This appeared such a risky thing for me!


Until i met a guy on LetsLunch.com who barely 23 yrs old, told me how he backpacked Europe, made friends in the Train, lost his wallet and still made arrangement for the money from his hotel.


I told him how i too wanted to backpack in Europe, but couldn't do it so far. He said its simple- you don't want it bad enough!!! That was my Socrates moment. I planned my European trip later that year with 24 hours between booking time and departure time.


Here Burning desire and acting on it equates risk. For everyone else it appears risk.

3: Will Power: Years before man landed on the moon, someone asked President JFK - What will it take to put a man on the moon. He answered "Will power". After few years we had our first moon landing.

Its middle class thinking to think something is achieved by knowledge,intelligence and skills. A world class person has tremendous will power and belief that something can be achieved. Champions are driven to win, in most cases, because they believe they can.

4: Facilitated introspection: The most effective form of learning is self-discovery. Most people are unaware of what makes them tick in terms of their emotional motivators. Facilitating the introspective process, helps people rediscover what they already know. The only way to help a person discover the hidden power locked in their psyche is through asking PROBING questions.


The risk here is coming across your weaknesses and accepting it. Wait that's not big risk: Taking responsibility of working on improving it is the biggest risk. Since Hardwork, patience and time are to be invested.


What can be measure can be improved.


I would rank this element as the most difficult aspect of risk taking as it involves seeing through your own ego, defense mechanisms, identity and blind spots. Becoming aware of it and gradually working to improve it demands swallowing your pride or ego, recreating your identity, belief system Plus Having patience and doing the dirty hard work.


Risk --> Self Discovery.





Conquering oneself is truly conquering the world!

5: Crucial Conversations: Level of success in life is directly proportional to the number of difficult conversations you are willing to have. Each day i am faced with the choice of having that crucial conversation with some of the people like- Investors, advisers, employees, journalists, consultants, partners, vendors, attorneys, users, mentors...Etc


Biggest risk here is stepping on someones toes, micromanaging, alienating someone, starting a fight, appearing greedy, appearing foolish and what not.


Risk == Having crucial conversations.


Getting comfortable with crucial conversations is such an art in itself. It can only be improved by putting yourself in those situations- day and night perfecting your skills.


Most of us would rather miss out on something, be taken advantage of, get coaxed into something than take the risk of having difficult conversations. It takes courage and confidence.


Key here is to become a master communicator with focus on tact, diplomacy, learning to fight fair, leaving things unsaid when required, giving constructive criticism and forgiveness.

6: Not Rationalizing: One of the biggest drawbacks of analyzing is when it leads to rationalizing.


I have been guilty of this all the time. Coming up with a book full of excuses.



I don't have enough connections, they are biased towards..., i don't have knowledge of, i'm not extroverted, when i have X then i will do Y, if only i find an engineer.....



One day one of my friends was asking me how do i travel around the world with such ease.


Where as he doesn't have any knowledge or skill of planning for big trips.


This is a friend who is excellent when it comes to knowledge of mobile phone. He knows what are the upcoming new cellphone models, which cellphone manufacturing company takes what strategy. What are the differences between android and IOS platform.


He also knows about different makes of bed foams, pillows and thread counts...


I told him learning to plan travel is no different from learning about cellphones.

Researching cities, flights, places of attractions, days to travel are no different than the skill he is using to find out all about the cellphone universe.

It takes same amount of time, skills and IQ to do it. Its just that it requires different muscles of memory and moreover willingness to do it.


A simple conversation like this led to a paradigm shift and from then on that friend has been able to use this skill to accept the challenges and responsibilities of many areas of his life he was avoiding by rationalizing. This helped me too and i was able to start addressing the things in life i was hiding behind the excuses.


What is not risk?


There are some bad qualities too which when used in the wrong context makes you appear risk taker when that is not the case. They are just that - some qualities.


1: Impulsive thinking: Taking actions without thinking anything is not risk, its just an impulsive thinking.


For example, what if you had a GOAL of becoming a great actor/actress? Now then, what if you live in Iowa, and have never taken a course, not signed up for one, never tried out for a play, and haven’t planned to, never bothered to talk to working actors to “borrow” some of their “street smart” experience, and had not thought of moving to NYC or LA? Do you have intention to be a great actor? NO!


But if you lived in Iowa, made a security deposit on an LA apartment, planned on attending acting classes in LA and had already talked to some actor friends there, and even scheduled some auditions for movie try-outs, do you have intention to be a great actor? You certainly DO! Because you are not acting impulsively


For some people this appears risk ,its not. Its just impulsive thinking.

2: Facing the wrong fears: Suppose you are on a 5th floor. A monkey charges towards you, you jump from the 5th floor. This can't be called as act of courage. Taking credit that you jumped from 5th floor. You were avoiding facing the monkey rather than fighting it. Jumping from 5th floor hence is not a risk you took but you took a safety action which comes across as Risk. Wrongly.





Now you know there are no risks in life -Only a set of solid fundamentals applied in the right context to give an appearance of risk.



Life is full of risks, risk it!


PS: I had my Socrates moment two years ago and went to Europe. What are you going to do today?




Take that risky decision in your startup, learn that new skill - Let me know in the comments below

poker

Risk means different things to different people. I cringe every time someone equates risk to gambling foolishly. Something on the lines of – I’d like to launch a startup, that means i have to sacrifice my X (Say 2) yrs salary and time. If this works out i will end up with a multi-million dollars startup. Downside is of losing two years salary if it doesn’t work our. The upside [Reward] is 1000 times return and risk [Downside] is losing two years salary.

Upside/Downside; Upside = Reward – Downside = Risk.

There is something utterly wrong with this theory. The real risk here is not the downside.

You missing out on the multi-million dollar opportunity is a way bigger risk than losing two years salary [Downside].

Still there are a lot of elements missing out in both of the definitions above.

Personally speaking, i have been called a Risk taker all my life. Especially after starting my startup LetsLunch.com . Slowly i started understanding the elements of risk taking.

Why some people can go on taking risks after risks, while others have a hard time even once doing something out of their comfort zone. In my previous post i talked about how habits are formed and retained as a group and not as isolated goals.

I have found that risk by itself doesn’t exist!!!

What we do is simply apply one of the fundamental positive qualities in the right given context.

That comes across as risk. For example: Many opportunities are lost because of indecision.

Making a decision means also being ready to take the blame. We’d rather take advice, wait for the complete proof and safety, form a consensus, watch for proof from other people and then once it feels responsibility will not be put on you for your decision, then we make the decision.
Someone who is not afraid of being wrong – We call him a risk taking person.

In this Context, simply being able to make decisions fast enough, we appear to be a risk taker.

Risk = Decision making.

Here is a list of all the attributes- when used in the right context, comes across as Risk.
1: Saying no: Every act of saying no has elements of risk involved in it. Your competitors are doing -this, that and those – you are expected to do it for your friends, employees, investors, peers etc. If you don’t plan to do it then you risk missing out the opportunity, appearing foolish/lazy. Ironically not following suit with your competitor might be the best strategy in some scenarios. The risk here is offending who you work with, Risk taking here simply becomes saying no.
2: Burning desire: You all know the story of Socrates and how a young man approached him wanting to be like him. Then how he ducked the head of the man under the water, leaving him gasping for air. Telling How badly he wanted oxygen while ducked in the water equally bad he should desire knowledge, if he wanted to be like him.

This is the opposite of saying no, Here you want things pretty bad and pursuit of it appears risk to everyone. I always wanted to backpack Europe. However, it used to appear so risky to me. How will i figure out where i will stay, i don’t know anyone there, what places i will see, what if i get lost on the freeway somewhere. This appeared such a risky thing for me!

Until i met a guy on LetsLunch.com who barely 23 yrs old, told me how he backpacked Europe, made friends in the Train, lost his wallet and still made arrangement for the money from his hotel.

I told him how i too wanted to backpack in Europe, but couldn’t do it so far. He said its simple- you don’t want it bad enough!!! That was my Socrates moment. I planned my European trip later that year with 24 hours between booking time and departure time.

Here Burning desire and acting on it equates risk. For everyone else it appears risk.
3: Will Power: Years before man landed on the moon, someone asked President JFK – What will it take to put a man on the moon. He answered “Will power”. After few years we had our first moon landing.
Its middle class thinking to think something is achieved by knowledge,intelligence and skills. A world class person has tremendous will power and belief that something can be achieved. Champions are driven to win, in most cases, because they believe they can.
4: Facilitated introspection: The most effective form of learning is self-discovery. Most people are unaware of what makes them tick in terms of their emotional motivators. Facilitating the introspective process, helps people rediscover what they already know. The only way to help a person discover the hidden power locked in their psyche is through asking PROBING questions.

The risk here is coming across your weaknesses and accepting it. Wait that’s not big risk: Taking responsibility of working on improving it is the biggest risk. Since Hardwork, patience and time are to be invested.

What can be measure can be improved.

I would rank this element as the most difficult aspect of risk taking as it involves seeing through your own ego, defense mechanisms, identity and blind spots. Becoming aware of it and gradually working to improve it demands swallowing your pride or ego, recreating your identity, belief system Plus Having patience and doing the dirty hard work.

Risk –> Self Discovery.

Conquering oneself is truly conquering the world!
5: Crucial Conversations: Level of success in life is directly proportional to the number of difficult conversations you are willing to have. Each day i am faced with the choice of having that crucial conversation with some of the people like- Investors, advisers, employees, journalists, consultants, partners, vendors, attorneys, users, mentors…Etc

Biggest risk here is stepping on someones toes, micromanaging, alienating someone, starting a fight, appearing greedy, appearing foolish and what not.

Risk == Having crucial conversations.

Getting comfortable with crucial conversations is such an art in itself. It can only be improved by putting yourself in those situations- day and night perfecting your skills.

Most of us would rather miss out on something, be taken advantage of, get coaxed into something than take the risk of having difficult conversations. It takes courage and confidence.

Key here is to become a master communicator with focus on tact, diplomacy, learning to fight fair, leaving things unsaid when required, giving constructive criticism and forgiveness.
6: Not Rationalizing: One of the biggest drawbacks of analyzing is when it leads to rationalizing.

I have been guilty of this all the time. Coming up with a book full of excuses.

I don’t have enough connections, they are biased towards…, i don’t have knowledge of, i’m not extroverted, when i have X then i will do Y, if only i find an engineer…..

One day one of my friends was asking me how do i travel around the world with such ease.

Where as he doesn’t have any knowledge or skill of planning for big trips.

This is a friend who is excellent when it comes to knowledge of mobile phone. He knows what are the upcoming new cellphone models, which cellphone manufacturing company takes what strategy. What are the differences between android and IOS platform.

He also knows about different makes of bed foams, pillows and thread counts…

I told him learning to plan travel is no different from learning about cellphones.

Researching cities, flights, places of attractions, days to travel are no different than the skill he is using to find out all about the cellphone universe.
It takes same amount of time, skills and IQ to do it. Its just that it requires different muscles of memory and moreover willingness to do it.

A simple conversation like this led to a paradigm shift and from then on that friend has been able to use this skill to accept the challenges and responsibilities of many areas of his life he was avoiding by rationalizing. This helped me too and i was able to start addressing the things in life i was hiding behind the excuses.

What is not risk?

There are some bad qualities too which when used in the wrong context makes you appear risk taker when that is not the case. They are just that – some qualities.

1: Impulsive thinking: Taking actions without thinking anything is not risk, its just an impulsive thinking.

For example, what if you had a GOAL of becoming a great actor/actress? Now then, what if you live in Iowa, and have never taken a course, not signed up for one, never tried out for a play, and haven’t planned to, never bothered to talk to working actors to “borrow” some of their “street smart” experience, and had not thought of moving to NYC or LA? Do you have intention to be a great actor? NO!

But if you lived in Iowa, made a security deposit on an LA apartment, planned on attending acting classes in LA and had already talked to some actor friends there, and even scheduled some auditions for movie try-outs, do you have intention to be a great actor? You certainly DO! Because you are not acting impulsively

For some people this appears risk ,its not. Its just impulsive thinking.
2: Facing the wrong fears: Suppose you are on a 5th floor. A monkey charges towards you, you jump from the 5th floor. This can’t be called as act of courage. Taking credit that you jumped from 5th floor. You were avoiding facing the monkey rather than fighting it. Jumping from 5th floor hence is not a risk you took but you took a safety action which comes across as Risk. Wrongly.


Now you know there are no risks in life -Only a set of solid fundamentals applied in the right context to give an appearance of risk.

Life is full of risks, risk it!

PS: I had my Socrates moment two years ago and went to Europe. What are you going to do today?

Take that risky decision in your startup, learn that new skill – Let me know in the comments below

ANATOMY OF EXECUTING IDEAS

On July 3rd, 2013 By .   

drinking-fountain


At the fountain of knowledge, three types of people come. Those who taste it, some gargle and spit it, Finally there is the type who drinks and digests it.


So you want to start a startup, not a big deal. You just need to find a great idea, possibly that never existed before. Work for 3-4 years on it and you will make it big - right? WRONG.



Its like saying I need to lose weight or join the gym for 3-6 months and I will have that perfect, chiseled wash board abs or loss of 30 pounds weight. Statistics shows that over 90% of people who reach their dieting goals eventually gain all the weight back, and usually add some more. Same way majority of the people don't maintain their abs.



90% of the statups shut down after three years of launch. In another six years 90% of the other left over statups wrap up the business. It's not that competition kills them, but founders lose interest. It's committing suicide by the startup guru Paul Graham.



We start passionately towards it, but somewhere down the line- container gets depleted.


Do you see a common pattern here? Either its one health goal or one IDEA you want to execute. Isolated goals never become ingrained part of our life and growth.


Passion leads us to do the initial 5% of the required work. This is the glamorous period where newness of the situation provides the energy.



Execution = 5% passion + 95% determination.



True mastery and execution of an idea/skill requires changes to many of your other habits, behaviors and attitude - which may not be completely related to what you think is required. Its building a series of positives habits and a lifestyle which truly reflects the kind of person you want to be. This comes as a "complete package" of you. This is called DETERMINATION.



This is why investors don't invest in ideas, but people. The kind of personality who can hit execution from different angles.



Sometimes even without determination you might get instant success, but that doesn't last. This why you have over night startup success stories or people on crash diet. But without a foundation supporting it you will lose it all. You haven't grown as a person that quickly and the success is not a reflection of you. Have you heard of the lottery winners who lost all the money within Five years of winning it.



Most people exert their willpower on temporary fixes rather than life-long habits such as decision making, politics, time management, communication, action,

planning, learning, negotiation, conflict-management, advertising, marketing, teamwork,

faith, belief, charisma, power
, and a host of other combinations.



As I discussed previously - Running a startup means understanding yourself through self discipline, understanding others through psychology and then applying this knowledge on the skill/idea you are pursuing.


Let's take a look at what happens when you start to create a new lifestyle for yourself.


Changing yourself means creation of anxiety within. Your psyche is equipped with layer after layer of defense mechanisms designed to shoot down anything that might keep things from staying exactly where they are!


It's the thing your ego is saying to you in order to prevent you from having to do the hard work of improving. Remember, misery is comfortable. It's why so many people prefer it. Happiness takes effort.


When confronted with building new habits and discipline. We have these common reactions.



1: Avoidance: thinking too much and not taking any actions - analysis paralysis. We make it intentionally bad to make it clear to everyone else that this isn't our real effort. Our real effort would have been amazing. This is a classic indecision block.Once you know what needs to be done - you don't act on it. Here you are playing the "rat" from hare,tortoise and rat fable. Where rat suffered from indecision and didnot run the race. Choosing to protect its ego rather than run the race and risk failure. Good thing with making decisions is to make them even if turns out to be wrong later. If it was a right decision then it helps your conscience, if a wrong one then helps your intuition.



2: Play victim: If only i had..., my competitors sucks, but are stealing the deal, this startup is not going anywhere it's hopeless, what if tomorrow xyz happens!, market these days is..., nobody gets me, blaming it on the other department/people like marketing, product, design, engineering, and a bunch of hundreds of excuses.



3: Impulsive actions: This is where doing things impulsively without thinking through. Buying a lot of startup books, magazines, seminars. Excessively attending conferences, networking events and parties. Reading all the tech blogs, watching interviews. Spending a lot on business cards, t-shirts, office space.



They are all temporary fixes that lower our anxiety, but if the original


Sources of that anxiety are still present—loss or fear of loss, or lack of confidence about a


Particular aspect of life, then we see a rise of anxiety again soon after indulging our


addiction. Anxiety signals you that you have fears, challenges, changes or risks to face and rise to.


discipline


4: Courage is the only way out of problems with anxiety, victimization, impulsivity,and lack of confidence.


Consider that knowing "the right thing" to do comes from your two inner


decision-making resources, conscience and intuition! Conscience tells us whats the right thing to do and intuition tells us how the environment will react to our decision. Courage then, is not bravery, not fearless or any other thing we lack or acquire—it is a decision!


This concept of courage is one of the hardest character skills to build because it doesn't involve too much thinking and analyzing—one simply has to think of the "right thing" to do, then go do it. That's courage. It's an act that almost never can take place in front of a computer. It has to happen out there in the real world.



There it is - the law of 10,000 hours drilled into us!

drinking-fountain

At the fountain of knowledge, three types of people come. Those who taste it, some gargle and spit it, Finally there is the type who drinks and digests it.

So you want to start a startup, not a big deal. You just need to find a great idea, possibly that never existed before. Work for 3-4 years on it and you will make it big – right? WRONG.

Its like saying I need to lose weight or join the gym for 3-6 months and I will have that perfect, chiseled wash board abs or loss of 30 pounds weight. Statistics shows that over 90% of people who reach their dieting goals eventually gain all the weight back, and usually add some more. Same way majority of the people don’t maintain their abs.

90% of the statups shut down after three years of launch. In another six years 90% of the other left over statups wrap up the business. It’s not that competition kills them, but founders lose interest. It’s committing suicide by the startup guru Paul Graham.

We start passionately towards it, but somewhere down the line- container gets depleted.

Do you see a common pattern here? Either its one health goal or one IDEA you want to execute. Isolated goals never become ingrained part of our life and growth.

Passion leads us to do the initial 5% of the required work. This is the glamorous period where newness of the situation provides the energy.

Execution = 5% passion + 95% determination.

True mastery and execution of an idea/skill requires changes to many of your other habits, behaviors and attitude – which may not be completely related to what you think is required. Its building a series of positives habits and a lifestyle which truly reflects the kind of person you want to be. This comes as a “complete package” of you. This is called DETERMINATION.

This is why investors don’t invest in ideas, but people. The kind of personality who can hit execution from different angles.

Sometimes even without determination you might get instant success, but that doesn’t last. This why you have over night startup success stories or people on crash diet. But without a foundation supporting it you will lose it all. You haven’t grown as a person that quickly and the success is not a reflection of you. Have you heard of the lottery winners who lost all the money within Five years of winning it.

Most people exert their willpower on temporary fixes rather than life-long habits such as decision making, politics, time management, communication, action,

planning, learning, negotiation, conflict-management, advertising, marketing, teamwork,

faith, belief, charisma, power, and a host of other combinations.

As I discussed previously – Running a startup means understanding yourself through self discipline, understanding others through psychology and then applying this knowledge on the skill/idea you are pursuing.

Let’s take a look at what happens when you start to create a new lifestyle for yourself.

Changing yourself means creation of anxiety within. Your psyche is equipped with layer after layer of defense mechanisms designed to shoot down anything that might keep things from staying exactly where they are!

It’s the thing your ego is saying to you in order to prevent you from having to do the hard work of improving. Remember, misery is comfortable. It’s why so many people prefer it. Happiness takes effort.

When confronted with building new habits and discipline. We have these common reactions.

1: Avoidance: thinking too much and not taking any actions – analysis paralysis. We make it intentionally bad to make it clear to everyone else that this isn’t our real effort. Our real effort would have been amazing. This is a classic indecision block.Once you know what needs to be done – you don’t act on it. Here you are playing the “rat” from hare,tortoise and rat fable. Where rat suffered from indecision and didnot run the race. Choosing to protect its ego rather than run the race and risk failure. Good thing with making decisions is to make them even if turns out to be wrong later. If it was a right decision then it helps your conscience, if a wrong one then helps your intuition.

2: Play victim: If only i had…, my competitors sucks, but are stealing the deal, this startup is not going anywhere it’s hopeless, what if tomorrow xyz happens!, market these days is…, nobody gets me, blaming it on the other department/people like marketing, product, design, engineering, and a bunch of hundreds of excuses.

3: Impulsive actions: This is where doing things impulsively without thinking through. Buying a lot of startup books, magazines, seminars. Excessively attending conferences, networking events and parties. Reading all the tech blogs, watching interviews. Spending a lot on business cards, t-shirts, office space.

They are all temporary fixes that lower our anxiety, but if the original

Sources of that anxiety are still present—loss or fear of loss, or lack of confidence about a

Particular aspect of life, then we see a rise of anxiety again soon after indulging our

addiction. Anxiety signals you that you have fears, challenges, changes or risks to face and rise to.

discipline

4: Courage is the only way out of problems with anxiety, victimization, impulsivity,and lack of confidence.

Consider that knowing “the right thing” to do comes from your two inner

decision-making resources, conscience and intuition! Conscience tells us whats the right thing to do and intuition tells us how the environment will react to our decision. Courage then, is not bravery, not fearless or any other thing we lack or acquire—it is a decision!

This concept of courage is one of the hardest character skills to build because it doesn’t involve too much thinking and analyzing—one simply has to think of the “right thing” to do, then go do it. That’s courage. It’s an act that almost never can take place in front of a computer. It has to happen out there in the real world.

There it is – the law of 10,000 hours drilled into us!

SELF DISCIPLINE, PSYCHOLOGY, STARTUPS – WHY?

On June 25th, 2013 By .   
Stock traders often say that any trader remotely successful, has completely depleted his account to ZERO dollars first.
Losing out all of your money in stocks often leads to making of some of the most skillful and successful traders.

There are for two reasons: Learning any skill like trading or running a start up magnifies your self awareness by 1000%.
Its like going to an Xray machine which hands you a 3D graph of your personality.
Emotions, behaviors, attitudes and habits and other painful things which are scary to look and measure.
They say what can be measured can be improved.

It begins with understanding and improving yourself with Self Discipline, then understanding others through human psychology to make win/win deals.
that makes 1+1 = 11 work. Putting this in a narrow definition of a business/startup.

The interesting corollary is to consider these three as identities of its own. (Self Discipline, Psychology and business/startup).

Most of the people are good with understanding two of these.
Thats where you see people like Experts/Analysts/Critics/Columnists who understand the market but don't apply it on it themselves to run the show or start a business.
Nerds/geeks/artists who understand themselves but don't understand others psychology and emotions.
Popular jocks/connectors/manager who are good with people and themselves but aren't risk takers to do courageous things.Notice i used the word manager not leader.

1: Self Discipline: It starts with building a world class attitude. How do you monitor yourself objectively. Lot of words we come across in theory and understand the text book definition but never really measure yourself correctly on it. Mental toughness and will power are measured by how many obstacle and hurdles we try to clear.

Striving to increase your comfort zone is not for the weak minds. Human body is filled with defense mechanism in every cell that fight to keep the things as they are EXACTLY.
Increasing the comfort zone is to overcome that natural instincts. Whats the craziest thing you have done in life? lot of people confuse crazy with sensible things.
Here is my definition of crazy. When you are going for skydiving for the first time. There will be an instructor for you for the first few times to press the button for parachute. Its because maybe your body won't respond to the dive correctly and you will not be able to press the button. Its the tandem fall. Its a sensible thing but not crazy. Jumping by yourself without the instructor first time. Now thats Crazy!

If you are not doing things that look crazy or pushing the boundaries to you, chances are your comfort zone is not expanding hence things are remaining the same for you.

What is your mental toughness level. Do you take no for an answer regularly - almost always?

On a scale of 1 to 777 what is your mental toughness level? Ask yourself - Are the outside forces influencing you most of the time or you are influencing the outside forces more.
Are you brining people into your reality most of the time or you are part of reality of everyone else. Too deep!

Indecision: Ever heard the story of tortoise and rabbit. There was also a third participant in the race- Rat. which no one talks about. when they started the race - Rat suffered from indecision.

It wasn't sure if it will win the race. When they blew the whistle for the race - rat was left stranded.
Just because we read about it doesn't mean we will become good with tackling indecision. Its about confronting the uncomfortable where our true decisiveness level can be measured.


Self Discipline can be boiled down to one thing - Persistence. The less i say about it the better it is!
Persistence just like any other skill takes purpose,patience,plan and practice to build.
Can you name any 5 incidents where you were not persistent and ask yourself why and see what excuse you had!!!

The main thing to understand here is most of your self discipline scales are measured when things are going down wrong -to be accurate.

2: Psychology: Human beings are superficial on many counts. There is nothing you can do to change it. However understanding

others on a scale will go a long way. 1: Experience vs Education 2: Conscience vs Intuition 3: Left brain vs Right brain. Using the Myers-Briggs

This allows you to see where someone gets his validation from.

Validation is the information we receive about our identities or who we are as a person. We all adopt identities and beliefs about ourselves and then we seek validation to reinforce and prove those identities and beliefs to ourselves. Can you talk to someone for 2 minutes and sense what kind of validation drives the person? Love, money, popularity, health, freedom being the building blocks.

Happines + success + freedom ==> Durable fulfillment.

Defense mechanisms are our unconscious reactions. Do you know what are those 9 types and which ones are positive and negative.
How good of a negotiator you are when it comes to contracts/deals?
We do play mind games to a certain extent but its about finding a win/win formula. Being assertive and walking away from Win/Lose deals.

Reading body language, face, tonality is becoming a rare and rare skill due to the new age problems of ADD/ADHD.
We are trained to be always in front of a rectangular screen driven by external stimuli.
What can we do to bring ourself in the present moment. Creativity is all about being present in the moment.
Best way is to be using 5 of your senses - feel,smell,taste,hear,see as much as possible allows us to be in the moment.
Midlife/quarter-life crisis mostly happen due to losing touch with one or more of the senses and hence getting disconnected from life.
Sharing a meal with someone is one of the best ways to be in the present.

Influence: Dale carnegie wrote " How to win friends and influence people" Influencing people is the number 1 of any leaders quality.
Important thing to remember here is- people follow your path not your advice.
This is where the self discipline is combined with psychology. In other words be the change you want to see in the world.

3: Startups: Startups at the core are nothing but people doing business with other people. Generally any startup/business can be categorized as providing help/value to others through

1: Resources
2: Money
3: skills
4: Time/effort
5: Access
Think of it as its own person. You have understood yourself and helped yourself through Self Discipline
Others through psychology and adjusted yourself accordingly. Now its time to use the similar skill to adjust your startup in the areas it need help.
Let it be chiseling the value propositions, growing the number of users, adding a business model or getting funding.
As you know most of the success of startups is build by its brand.
Brand is nothing but logical extension of your/teams personality. Building a brand means first building your own character.


More often than not , your startup brand represents your composure, poise,sure footedness and confidence. Consideration and empathy.
Predictability and commitment. Congruence of saying what you mean and meaning what you say.
Steve job's character is exactly the character of Apple Brand.

"Knowledge gives you power, character gives you respect" - Bruce lee.

Combining the mastery of self discipline and psychology greatly improves your odds of success.
You will be treating and applying the same principles to your business. Expanding its comfort zone, decisiveness etc

In the coming weeks we will take a deep dive further into each aspects of these topics so expect the unexpected!

Stock traders often say that any trader remotely successful, has completely depleted his account to ZERO dollars first.
Losing out all of your money in stocks often leads to making of some of the most skillful and successful traders.

There are for two reasons: Learning any skill like trading or running a start up magnifies your self awareness by 1000%.
Its like going to an Xray machine which hands you a 3D graph of your personality.
Emotions, behaviors, attitudes and habits and other painful things which are scary to look and measure.
They say what can be measured can be improved.

It begins with understanding and improving yourself with Self Discipline, then understanding others through human psychology to make win/win deals.
that makes 1+1 = 11 work. Putting this in a narrow definition of a business/startup.

The interesting corollary is to consider these three as identities of its own. (Self Discipline, Psychology and business/startup).

Most of the people are good with understanding two of these.
Thats where you see people like Experts/Analysts/Critics/Columnists who understand the market but don’t apply it on it themselves to run the show or start a business.
Nerds/geeks/artists who understand themselves but don’t understand others psychology and emotions.
Popular jocks/connectors/manager who are good with people and themselves but aren’t risk takers to do courageous things.Notice i used the word manager not leader.

1: Self Discipline: It starts with building a world class attitude. How do you monitor yourself objectively. Lot of words we come across in theory and understand the text book definition but never really measure yourself correctly on it. Mental toughness and will power are measured by how many obstacle and hurdles we try to clear.

Striving to increase your comfort zone is not for the weak minds. Human body is filled with defense mechanism in every cell that fight to keep the things as they are EXACTLY.
Increasing the comfort zone is to overcome that natural instincts. Whats the craziest thing you have done in life? lot of people confuse crazy with sensible things.
Here is my definition of crazy. When you are going for skydiving for the first time. There will be an instructor for you for the first few times to press the button for parachute. Its because maybe your body won’t respond to the dive correctly and you will not be able to press the button. Its the tandem fall. Its a sensible thing but not crazy. Jumping by yourself without the instructor first time. Now thats Crazy!

If you are not doing things that look crazy or pushing the boundaries to you, chances are your comfort zone is not expanding hence things are remaining the same for you.

What is your mental toughness level. Do you take no for an answer regularly – almost always?

On a scale of 1 to 777 what is your mental toughness level? Ask yourself – Are the outside forces influencing you most of the time or you are influencing the outside forces more.
Are you brining people into your reality most of the time or you are part of reality of everyone else. Too deep!

Indecision: Ever heard the story of tortoise and rabbit. There was also a third participant in the race- Rat. which no one talks about. when they started the race – Rat suffered from indecision.

It wasn’t sure if it will win the race. When they blew the whistle for the race – rat was left stranded.
Just because we read about it doesn’t mean we will become good with tackling indecision. Its about confronting the uncomfortable where our true decisiveness level can be measured.

Self Discipline can be boiled down to one thing – Persistence. The less i say about it the better it is!
Persistence just like any other skill takes purpose,patience,plan and practice to build.
Can you name any 5 incidents where you were not persistent and ask yourself why and see what excuse you had!!!

The main thing to understand here is most of your self discipline scales are measured when things are going down wrong -to be accurate.

2: Psychology: Human beings are superficial on many counts. There is nothing you can do to change it. However understanding

others on a scale will go a long way. 1: Experience vs Education 2: Conscience vs Intuition 3: Left brain vs Right brain. Using the Myers-Briggs

This allows you to see where someone gets his validation from.

Validation is the information we receive about our identities or who we are as a person. We all adopt identities and beliefs about ourselves and then we seek validation to reinforce and prove those identities and beliefs to ourselves. Can you talk to someone for 2 minutes and sense what kind of validation drives the person? Love, money, popularity, health, freedom being the building blocks.

Happines + success + freedom ==> Durable fulfillment.

Defense mechanisms are our unconscious reactions. Do you know what are those 9 types and which ones are positive and negative.
How good of a negotiator you are when it comes to contracts/deals?
We do play mind games to a certain extent but its about finding a win/win formula. Being assertive and walking away from Win/Lose deals.

Reading body language, face, tonality is becoming a rare and rare skill due to the new age problems of ADD/ADHD.
We are trained to be always in front of a rectangular screen driven by external stimuli.
What can we do to bring ourself in the present moment. Creativity is all about being present in the moment.
Best way is to be using 5 of your senses – feel,smell,taste,hear,see as much as possible allows us to be in the moment.
Midlife/quarter-life crisis mostly happen due to losing touch with one or more of the senses and hence getting disconnected from life.
Sharing a meal with someone is one of the best ways to be in the present.

Influence: Dale carnegie wrote ” How to win friends and influence people” Influencing people is the number 1 of any leaders quality.
Important thing to remember here is- people follow your path not your advice.
This is where the self discipline is combined with psychology. In other words be the change you want to see in the world.

3: Startups: Startups at the core are nothing but people doing business with other people. Generally any startup/business can be categorized as providing help/value to others through

1: Resources
2: Money
3: skills
4: Time/effort
5: Access
Think of it as its own person. You have understood yourself and helped yourself through Self Discipline
Others through psychology and adjusted yourself accordingly. Now its time to use the similar skill to adjust your startup in the areas it need help.
Let it be chiseling the value propositions, growing the number of users, adding a business model or getting funding.
As you know most of the success of startups is build by its brand.
Brand is nothing but logical extension of your/teams personality. Building a brand means first building your own character.

More often than not , your startup brand represents your composure, poise,sure footedness and confidence. Consideration and empathy.
Predictability and commitment. Congruence of saying what you mean and meaning what you say.
Steve job’s character is exactly the character of Apple Brand.

“Knowledge gives you power, character gives you respect” – Bruce lee.

Combining the mastery of self discipline and psychology greatly improves your odds of success.
You will be treating and applying the same principles to your business. Expanding its comfort zone, decisiveness etc

In the coming weeks we will take a deep dive further into each aspects of these topics so expect the unexpected!

LET THE GAMES BEGIN

On June 23rd, 2013 By .   
Well, I am the perennial no hoper. An average student in academic life. In fact, the only time I had hope was when I was doing standup comedy. They thought I might make it to the TV show "The last man standing" one day. Well, made it to the Toastmasters international speech contest at the city level- but never beyond. And this time round, I'm doing a startup. Actually, I am not too sure how i got into it. All I do is write code a bit, write marketing plan a bit. But, there's one thing I do very well. Understanding people and behaviors. And that's what I am expected do while running LetsLunch.com.



One good thing about the Entrepreneurship is how all of your behaviors get microscoped by 1000%. You start to objectively see your psyche, defense mechanisms, mental toughness level and decisiveness ability. This then gets measured in terms of how you understand others psychology. Add to it unconscious decisions made by others purely based on emotions and reactions. You can't change others, but how do you persuade them. What thought process is driving the motivation of other people. Namely your users,employees,media,investor etc How do you apply what you learnt about yourself to influence others positively. Shaping your startup/business with this is the logical extension.



Self discipline (You) + Psychology (others) ==> Startups (new entity)



The other good thing about the Entrepreneurship is that I meet people everyday.This lifestyle puts you in situation where building relationships is an essential part of your work.
I've met over 600 people out of it about 100 for lunches. www.LetsLunch.com/Syed.
Calibration determines your efficiency.How quick are your comebacks? How quickly can you make people feel comfortable around you and like you? How cool are you speaking to large groups of people? How sensitive are you to others emotions and feelings towards you? How able are you to influence those around you?
I will be bringing to you the deeper perspectives of startup journey.



Let the games begin!

Well, I am the perennial no hoper. An average student in academic life. In fact, the only time I had hope was when I was doing standup comedy. They thought I might make it to the TV show “The last man standing” one day. Well, made it to the Toastmasters international speech contest at the city level- but never beyond. And this time round, I’m doing a startup. Actually, I am not too sure how i got into it. All I do is write code a bit, write marketing plan a bit. But, there’s one thing I do very well. Understanding people and behaviors. And that’s what I am expected do while running LetsLunch.com.

One good thing about the Entrepreneurship is how all of your behaviors get microscoped by 1000%. You start to objectively see your psyche, defense mechanisms, mental toughness level and decisiveness ability. This then gets measured in terms of how you understand others psychology. Add to it unconscious decisions made by others purely based on emotions and reactions. You can’t change others, but how do you persuade them. What thought process is driving the motivation of other people. Namely your users,employees,media,investor etc How do you apply what you learnt about yourself to influence others positively. Shaping your startup/business with this is the logical extension.

Self discipline (You) + Psychology (others) ==> Startups (new entity)

The other good thing about the Entrepreneurship is that I meet people everyday.This lifestyle puts you in situation where building relationships is an essential part of your work.
I’ve met over 600 people out of it about 100 for lunches. www.LetsLunch.com/Syed.
Calibration determines your efficiency.How quick are your comebacks? How quickly can you make people feel comfortable around you and like you? How cool are you speaking to large groups of people? How sensitive are you to others emotions and feelings towards you? How able are you to influence those around you?
I will be bringing to you the deeper perspectives of startup journey.

Let the games begin!

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On June 2nd, 2013 By .   
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Lorem Ipsum is simply dummy text of the printing and typesetting industry. Lorem Ipsum has been the industry standard dummy text ever since the 1500s, when an unknown printer took a galley of type and scrambled it to make a type specimen book. It has survived not only five centuries, but also the leap into electronic typesetting, remaining essentially unchanged.